What Happened To The Designated Driver?
Going out with your friends is always a good time, right? Ideally, yes. You all go to your favorite bar, grab some drinks (and sometimes possibly too many), and somehow find a way back home. Your stumbling rampages and nonsensical conversations are generally what produce the most memorable time. As the night reaches an end, you all somehow reunite in a huddle and drunkenly plan how you’re going to get home. “I can drive” is usually uttered by someone in the group, and thanks to a lapse in judgment, everyone piles into the car and attempts to travel home. Unfortunately, and speaking from experience, that “driver” is not always qualified to be behind that wheel.
Absolutely No Alcohol Drivers
For some reason, especially from what I’ve witnessed in my years of going to parties and bars, there seems to be a disappearance of the presence of designated drivers. And when I say “designated,” I mean absolutely no alcohol consumption for that one person. But strangely enough, I’ve caught those people with a drink in their hand an hour before last call, and it honestly blows my mind at how careless we have become. Far too often I’ve seen parties of two or more volunteer the “less-drunk” person to drive instead of making sure that one of them didn’t drink at all the entire night. And sadly, I’ve been in situations where my ride was probably not 100% sober, and I hate admitting that.
Whose Gonna Be The Sober One?
I think that the importance of having a designated driver has dwindled in a lot of people’s list of priorities, primarily in my age group. Everyone wants to drink, everyone wants to have a good time, and no one wants to be that one sober person. People of my age also seem to have the mentality of a superhero and whole-heartedly believe that nothing can happen to them. Far too many times I’ve heard individuals attempting to drive say “I’ve driven way worse than this” or “I’ve only had a few drinks” or the best one “I drive better when I’m drunk.” Yes, I’ve heard all of those idiotic statements leave people’s mouths, and I’ve stupidly let them get in their car and drive home in their intoxicated state of mind. When being in the shoes of the one not driving, you feel like you have no control over the situation. For one, your judgment is impaired. And also, fighting them feels like a lost cause.
This inability to assign someone the duty of driving to and from an event AND the inability to stop someone from drinking and driving needs to be fixed immediately. Far too many times have I gotten in the car with a group of people, and either feared for my life on the way home or restricted myself from drinking in order to ensure having a sober driver truck everyone home. Not deciding on a sober driver before going out is such a mistake, and taking on the responsibility but then choosing to drink anyways is so plain infuriating to me. Not only is it wickedly expensive to get charged with a DUI, it’s f**king dangerous. I may be overly paranoid about cops and fatalities, but I don’t understand how those possibilities can enter a person’s mind and still not scare them enough to back out of driving under the influence.
We need to learn how to assume the duty of designated driver, STICK with it throughout the night, and make sure those who do drink do not get behind the wheel at all. Going out should never require alcohol, and if it does, maybe you shouldn’t be going out in the first place. The safety of your friends (and yourself) should be more important than your desire to join in on the rounds of shots, and being the fun-sponge of the group shouldn’t enable you from stopping someone from doing something regretful. Man up, people.