Like A Normal SlutShamer, Ayesha Curry Is Oblivious
In two tweets, Ayesha Curry revealed herself to be what she is. Religious, conservative and unaware of how seemingly innocuous comments contribute to patriarchy. The two quotes are attributed to her via her Twitter account.
Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters
Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week
Slut shaming is the act of criticizing a woman for her real or presumed sexual activity, or for behaving in ways that someone thinks are associated with her real or presumed sexual activity. Women’s sex lives and sexuality are matters of their own choice, and nobody else’s business. People (usually men, but sometimes women) often criticize women’s appearance for being too sexual (according to their standards of acceptable sexuality), in order to control women. One important point to consider is who is served by the way women dress? If a woman is doing it for herself, that is one thing, but it is sometimes argued that although women can freely choose to dress/act sexily, those choices aren’t made in a vacuum, and may be the result of broader sexist norms. This is true; and yet the criticism in these cases should be aimed at the sexist norms, which are the actual problem.
Here, Ayesha Curry is perfectly in bounds as to stating what her preferences of dress are. It begins to get problematic when she talks about keeping the good stuff covered up. The “good stuff” is entirely of the perspective of men looking at women’s bodies. Furthermore, while there s nothing wrong with saying her husband is the one that matters, as far as her dress is concerned, what she chooses to cover or not should be her decision and not that of her husband. in that regard, she is the only one that matters.
Her comments on classy versus trendy are far more problematic. Though we think of fashion as female, it is an industry overwhelmingly run by males. the styles that are out there are to be criticized and not the women who choose to wear such styles. In fact, these things are in style because of media and society which are overwhelmingly controlled by male opinions and perspective. Additionally, attaching classiness to how much a woman covers up is just plain sexist as men are never judged that way.
While I’m sure she meant well, Ayesha Curry sounds like the princess of patriarchy. Afterall, what would she like us to do with this information? Plushbabe’s take is the most prescient in my opinion.
“i’ll take classy (me being covered up) over trashy anyday!” boo, we see what you did there. you equated being nude and less clothed to trashy, which you (not so slickly) covered up by using the word “trendy”. you like to be more covered up? cool, ma. but don’t shame other girls that want to wear what they want, how they want, when they want, and for who they want.