A Definitive Guide Helping You Get Over Your Past Relationship
Breakups are never easy. Whether woman or man, they all feel terrible. People will always have a harder time because they don’t know how to move on or get on with their life after their breakup. Whenever we find people who successfully moved on after they were dumped, we ask them how they did it. In addition to people we know, the internet also has tips tricks to get over your past relationship. If you indeed want to feel and move forward post your break up, then this is what you need to do.
Whatever you do, you will feel a mode of denial. How could this happen to you? How can my ex ignore me even though our relationship is technically over but my heart isn’t ready to accept it? A part of you will hang on to a piece of hope which doesn’t actually exist.
During this stage, it’s important to cut communication with your ex. If you don’t, you’ll send a text or call to them occasionally to convince yourself that you guys can still be together. Avoid all of that. Block your ex on all digital platforms and communication where you can restrict them from contacting you as well.
Now, comes time for a lot of anger. You’re angry with your ex, their friends, family, and even yourself. It may not be rational, but you still are. It’s normal to feel that way but remember to manage your anger and particularly how you channel it. Updating your social media profile with quotations or letting your family and friends know how you are feeling at all times will not be appreciated. Find ways you can vent whether it’s the gym, meditation, or yoga.
After anger, you will start bargaining with the past to justify an excuse to give your relationship another chance. Maybe there is a way that you and your ex can make this work? Couples therapy perhaps? You will gather excuses to meet your ex and ask them to take you back. You might be thinking that you can still be friends with them in spite of the breakup. The fact is that two people who were in love in a relationship once can never be friends. So just keep your space and understand this phase will pass too.
This is when you feel life is full of gray. You are angry, in shock, and are insanely optimistic about your future with your ex. But slowly you will understand that your ex ain’t comin’ back. The best way to deal with this phase is by acknowledging your feelings. Nothing is permanent, not even your sadness. The longer you’re depressed, the longer it will take for you to recover from your broken relationship.
Maintain for people who matter to you like friends and family. If you must, take time off and take a vacation. Avoid those who suggest drugs and alcohol to get over your ex. You certainly don’t need them to recover. Talking and sharing via therapy is never a bad idea. It can help you in moving in the right direction with the right attitude.
After a terrible and heartbreaking breakup, it seems impossible for you to imagine another person in your life. It’s just tentative. Trust me.
One of the effective ways to challenge your thoughts is by being honest. I know it hurts since you are in your post breakup stage but it’s the only way to move forward. Be honest for the reason behind your break up. Just because you like or love someone, it doesn’t mean that you will have a great future with that person. If you two are not compatible, sooner or later the breakup would have happened.
This is the last stage of your recovery. Now that you understand that the rest of your life is more important than your broken relationship, it will be easy for you to move on. Eventually, maybe not immediately, you will learn to forgive your ex and even thank them for the experience you had together.
Refresh, rediscover and redefine your life the way you want to. Focus on things that improve your mind, body, and spirit. By doing so, you will create a positive energy in and around you.
Dating or Relationship?
Do you feel like you are ready to see someone else? If you had a recent breakup, it may not be a good idea because you may still be emotionally attached to someone else. So take some time off from the relationships to get a clear idea of what you want and what you don’t. However, if it has been awhile since you had your break up, then you may consider seeing someone. Make sure you know whether you just want to date or you want to be in a relationship.